I’m Donna Otmani, a Soul-Centered professional coach, trainer, and mentor who’s spent the last 20+ years assisting others with moving beyond their limitations so they could live deeply aligned lives. And what I’ve come to count on is that each one of us will come face-to-face with fear and resistance on our journey.
It’s not a matter of if- it’s a matter of when.
What I can say with 100% certainty is this:
How you respond to the voices of fear and resistance has a direct impact on the amount of joy, fulfillment, and empowerment you can experience in your life.
So, let’s do a little check-in to see how you’re currently doing…
When you want to do something new do you get STOPPED or slowed way down by those insistent voices inside of your head that say:
Who are you to do this? Want this? Have this?
That’s not possible!
That’s not realistic!
And …people like YOU can’t have this!
Many of my coaching clients came to me because when they went to speak up for themselves they would get STOPPED by the voices that told them:
Don’t rock the boat.
It’s not worth it.
I don’t want the drama.
What if they get mad at me and leave?
They’re not going to change so why bother?
It’s no big deal, I should just let it go.
Does that happen to you?
Do you find yourself challenged to start the very thing you say you want? Finding yourself saying things like…
I’ll start tomorrow.
I’ll wait ‘til after the holiday.
I couldn’t do it because x happened.
What’s the point?
Why am I so good at assisting others with quieting these voices?
Because I’ve been up close and personal with all these thoughts! I have been EXACTLY where you are!
And, these same thoughts are the same thoughts my clients bring to our coaching sessions. They used to STOP me, but now I know how to work with them. And, they use to stop my clients too … but they learned to work with them. And so can you.
Do you find yourself unable to stick with your commitments?
It’s too hard.
I can’t keep going!
This is boring.
I just want to do whatever I want to do. (A voice I have to deal with all too often!)
Just a little bit won’t hurt.
I deserve a treat.
I’m tired - I need a break.
I’m not getting results fast enough - so F@c# it.
Yup. Me too! I’ve had every single one of these thoughts.
In fact, every single person I’ve ever worked with has thoughts like these, has believed these thoughts, and has been stopped by them.
It’s 100% normal and 100% predictable that those fears, doubts, and resistances will show up because they’re part of how we’re psychologically designed to keep ourselves “safe”. (more on that later)
My Story
I reached a point in my 30s where the impact of believing those fear-based limiting thoughts was causing me a lot of suffering. It was impacting my marriage, my career, my body, and my happiness. I was having anxiety attacks, was emotionally reactive, and felt completely stuck and helpless to change my experience.
I didn’t know how to stop the strong, critical, and victimy barrage of thoughts that kept swirling around inside my brain. I tried pushing through them- which worked at times. At other times, I’d find relief by bailing on my new commitments and retreating back into old ways. Neither strategy lasted long or brought a real source of relief.
I sought out books, teachers, programs, and leaders to help me move beyond my own limited thinking, cultural conditioning, and negative self-talk. I took two steps forward and one step … heck sometimes even seven steps back!
I learned that those voices in my head weren’t the truth. I learned I have the wisdom to know what’s right for me and the sovereignty to make choices and take actions to support that wisdom.
Most importantly I’ve learned that Life/the Divine/the Universe (whatever you want to call it) is here to support me in following my truth. The result?
I’VE BECOME UNSTOPPABLE
Let’s be clear- unstoppable does NOT mean that I do it all perfectly, or that life is easy, or that I charge ahead and immediately create everything I want with no effort, or that I push super hard and exhaust myself over and over again to get what I want. Been there, done that. #notsustainable
Unstoppable means learning to move beyond those voices and our conditioning to make deeply aligned choices that reflect who we are and what we need at any given time. Unstoppable is a way of life.
Here are some examples from my life:
Grew up in a homogeneous small town in Northwestern PA and moved to NYC- one of the biggest and most beautifully diverse cities in the world.
Parents were blue-collar workers who felt very limited in their incomes and careers- and I’ve expanded my level of abundance and success way beyond what they thought was possible (and what I thought was possible, too).
Despite being at the top of my game professionally, I left my career with zero savings to back me up. I was drowning in responsibilities, crushed by the pace and complexity, and found myself drinking a lot. I went on to create my own practice in a way that honored the slower and more spacious pace that my soul craved while doing deeply fulfilling work … making a bigger impact in my clients’ lives.
Ended my 16-year marriage and went on to recreate our family in a way where we all are thriving. We are great co-parents and most importantly we show up and support each other even better than when we were married.
I began dating again at probably my highest weight ever and overcame so many conditioned and limiting beliefs about bigger women not being attractive or desired.
But being unstoppable isn’t just about the BIG challenges in life.
I use these same tools with myself and my clients to become unstoppable in everyday scenarios:
Overcoming fears and resistance to talking to a roommate when there’s been a disagreement.
Working with the fears and resistance that comes up when telling people what you do for a living
Working with the fears and resistance that come up when you’re dealing with a health scare.
Working with the fears and resistance that come up when you’re finally saying no instead of your typical people-pleasing response.
Working through a challenge with your boss when you’d rather just brush it under the rug or quit to go find another job.
Having a hard conversation … or sharing a deep dream/desire … with a spouse or partner
You may have been reading this thinking about the places and spaces where you get stopped in life. And here’s what I want to make sure is abundantly clear:
BECOMING UNSTOPPABLE IS LEARNABLE.
I learned it. My clients continue to demonstrate higher levels of being Unstoppable … and so can YOU!
That’s right, becoming unstoppable is not an event … it’s a process.
Being unstoppable is an empowering way to approach and live life.
It’s a skill.
A practice.
An ongoing choice.
One that gets easier and more natural, the more you do it.
Here is what a few of my clients share about becoming unstoppable:
"I started my journey with Donna during a period of immense change in my life. I’d moved to a new city, started an incredibly fast-paced job, and felt overwhelmed and anxious most of the time. Donna created an incredibly safe space for me to explore what was happening. I went into our sessions without any sort of expectation- and was blown away by what occurred.
She helped me get in touch with the part of me that was feeling overwhelmed and anxious and ask it what it needed. By going directly to the source, as if it were a little kid or a scared animal, I could hear it out and give it the reassurance and attention it needed. It was so powerful! From our very first session, we were able to access parts of myself that I had not been in touch with for years. Parts I hadn't been able to access even after months with a therapist.
For example, in the crush of the new job and all the new expectations, I'd been unable to access my creativity- which is my source of deep joy and satisfaction in life. While I knew it was temporary- I was feeling very unsettled about it- and doing things like going out and partying as a way of escaping the intensity of this new life.
In our very first session- she helped me connect with and talk to my creativity. I was able to reassure this part of me that I hadn't forgotten about her and that we were doing this new job as part of our ultimate goal to write and direct. It was exactly the reassurance that part of me needed. I could feel myself relax and feel more at peace. It was amazing. And guess what- the very next weekend, I began writing again and since then all sorts of creative projects have come forward. In addition, spending my weekends out at some bar no longer had the same allure- and I found myself drawn to connecting with other creatives and doing things that filled me up and gave me energy.
By working with Donna, I'm more connected to myself and my truth, more at ease in my life, and feel more on purpose than I ever knew possible. I left every session feeling incredibly jubilant and proud of the versions of myself that I accessed and spoke to. Our work gave me a sense of stability when I needed it most. Working with her is truly a gift and I am so incredibly grateful."
Maria P.
Production Coordinator
NY, NY
YOUR WILLINGNESS TO STAND FOR ME MADE ALL THE DIFFERENCE. Donna, thank you for your brilliant coaching and loving friendship as I struggled mightily with my resistance to writing my book, Sacred Success. Your willingness to stand for me to share my truth, and to follow my inner guidance, despite my resistance, despite my fears, made all the difference and allowed me to get this new body of work out in the world.
It was your ability to hold for me, and the way I saw you do it for so many other women, that allowed me to say hell yes to the idea of you teaching my Overcoming Underearning teleseminars. Your ability to connect, inspire and coach a woman to step into her authentic truth and power made such a difference in the lives of the participants and all those who have given themselves the gift of coaching with you. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Barbara Huson (formerly Stanny)
Author of Sacred Success and Overcoming Underearning
www.barbara-huson.com
For years I've been taking courses and investing in my education for my own growth and expansion. Despite the massive benefits these teachings had brought to my life, and the desire to be of service to others- I was resisting sharing what I learned out of fear that no one would be interested, that I would be misunderstood, or seen as too "out there".
But my soul didn't want me to keep all of this tucked in a drawer. With the help of Donna and the InrWrk, I've been able to work with those parts of me that are scared and resistant. These processes helped me align with my true desire to share my work and I'm doing it! I've developed my website, working 1:1 with clients, writing and sharing my blog.
Each step came with fear and resistance- but I feel unstoppable- because I know how to work with it now. Without the InrWrk, I'd probably still be trying to decide if I could be brave enough to do it.
Theres Kull
Italy
www.thereskull.com
So How Do We Do This?
Up until now, the only way clients could learn to become unstoppable was through a private 1:1 coaching container. I created this course so more people can have the opportunity to learn the practices and tools with both a time commitment and financial commitment that’s more accessible..
Why?
Because the world needs more unstoppable people … right now.
Unstoppable people are willing to show up and speak up, and have the courage to live lives that are aligned with their Truth. The world needs more people who are resilient and able to work with the fear and resistance that comes up in both their private lives and as a result of what is happening in the world at large- so they can keep going.
The world needs more people standing for love, for peace, for joy, for everyone being cared for. And the more we stand for this in our own lives, the more we can stand for this on the planet.
As within, so without.
I am committed to getting these skills to as many people as possible. I am committed to making a bigger impact. I am committed to assisting more people with living a deeply aligned life.
In this 4-week training series, you’ll have the opportunity to:
See fear and resistance for what they really are: self-protection strategies that think they are keeping you safe.
Identify and release the old beliefs/ways of being that are creating the fear and resistance.
Learn the exact processes to effectively work yourself ANYTIME you feel afraid or resistant no matter what you’re attempting to do or create in your life.
Actively practice the InrWrk with fear/resistance during our calls together (yes, there will be time to do the InrWrk together) and you’ll also be set up for success in-between calls with guided exercises.
Access to all training video recordings - to watch whenever you want - so you can deepen your practice of the skills post the course.
If you find yourself stopped or challenged by fear or resistance in your life, and you’re ready to experience greater connection to your truth, greater ability to take aligned action, and the ability to show up more powerfully in your life, join me in this 4 part training and take the next steps to becoming unstoppable!
Series details:
4, weekly 90 minute live classes via Zoom (all calls will be recorded)
Wednesday, June 1st, 8th, 15th, 22nd
7:00-8:30 pm ET/4:00-5:30 pm PT
Fee: $497
As a Barbara Huson referral- you save $100! Your investment is $397 AND you get a bonus 60-minute private coaching session with me (a $250 value) once the course is over to help integrate your learnings.
Listen, there may be a voice in your head saying something like … “Sure this worked for Donna and her other clients … but this isn’t going to work for me.”
If you’re hearing this voice (or some version of this), you’ll be glad to hear that almost every one of my clients heard this voice before we started working together. This reaction is completely NORMAL. So, stay with me here…
Truth is- there is no such thing as everything being peaceful and perfect all the time … no one lives a life like this … no one.
Becoming unstoppable is about LIVING life … no matter when something happens or doesn't happen. No matter the ups and downs. Unstoppable people have learned to ride the waves of it all. It’s a skill. And you can learn it too.
I designed this training so you too can become a powerful surfer of the waves of life.
I’m going to teach you the exact processes that will allow you to identify your own limiting thoughts, feel your own feelings AND create the internal shifts necessary so you can take the actions you need to … or want to take.
Are you ready to be supported and nurtured so you can become unstoppable?
Join us and we’ll take the next step together as you learn how to create a way more powerful and enjoyable way of living- one that impacts your family, your career, your health, AND your finances.
With so much love,
Donna